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Sunday, April 25, 2010

Ew, ew, ew.

Whenever people talk about the nature of blogging, invariably, the idea of a "window" comes up. It's a pretty decent comparison: Life as a house, the information we share on the internet as an opening in the wall. It's a controlled glimpse, and as long as you don't place the window in, say, your bathroom, you don't really mind much about the general public hanging around outside and peering in.

But the problem, to really drag out this extended metaphor, is that the not-so-general public can also peer in -- including friends from elementary school, and grandparents, and (and this is the kicker) outsiders who used to be anything but. Frenemies, exes, and others who used to live inside the House of Your Life but who you finally evicted a number of years ago because they pissed on the toilet seat and set fire to your cat.

Which is to say, people you'd hoped to thoroughly shut out will, years later, still keep tabs on you via your blog.

And by "you", I mean "me".

And by "people", I mean... well, no, I'm not naming names, but ugh.

Until last week, I'd forgotten this could even be a concern -- the way a person forgets about a wart once it's been frozen off. And while I've specifically angled my own inter-window so as not to display anything I consider private -- despite the profanity and personal anecdotes, there's nothing here I feel weird about showing to the world -- I'm thoroughly icked out by this one lousy individual, who is (figuratively) hanging around, looking in, and waving at me through the window even though I am (figuratively) calling the police, because it is (LITERALLY) extremely fucking creepy and weird.

And as it turns out, it doesn't do much for the whole "wanting to write" thing.

I'll be back when the nausea subsides.

11 comments:

Emily said...

:-( suck. A beer should help with that.

Christine Staley said...

I had a similar issue awhile back and agree, it's creepy and annoying and it feels like they are in some way violating your privacy. You don't mind sharing your world with world, just not *them*.

I quit writing and realized that by altering my course, they won. They still had the power to fuck with me.

So I said fuck them instead and went about my business writing... sorry you've got some lurkers you'd rather not have, but I hope you come back soon!

Lollie said...

Hey Lousy Individual! Bugger off! Don't ruin this gem for the rest of us.

TKTC said...

Oh yuck. It's different but I've had at least two women who have had sex with J(and would like to continue to do so despite my presence) find my blog and search all kinds of un-pie-related items. People are crazy. And yes, I do get to hold him accountable for his occasional lack of taste prior to our relationship. Ok, maybe no. But still. GROSS.

Also- Nameless Intruder, you're invited to get lost. I have some misplaced aggression I'd really love to exercise on your IP address.

ChasingParadise said...

This is the exact reason why I won't tell everyone about my blog, or link it to my Facebook profile. It's not that I'm worried that anything I put out there shouldn't be shared or would ashame me - it's that there are just some people who I feel would stalk the hell out of me who I am so completely done with. And I don't feel they should be privileged enough to read my thoughts. Egotistical, much? Maybe so, but that's how I see it.

Hollywood Sucker said...

If you stop writing the terrorists win.

Hannah Miet said...

uuugggh.

Commiseration.

Anthony said...

I tend to use this to my advantage. In fact, passive agressively getting in their head is what I love to do best. Immature maybe but if you want to hang around, I'll play.

Anonymous said...

Dear Mr/s Lurker - that's just fucking creepy. stop it.

I had a Livejournal for several years, that I kept mostly anonymous. One of my coworkers happened to find it (don't ask) and shared it with another socially retarded, conservative, passive-aggressive, whacked-out, failure of a co-worker, who would then make thinly veiled, critical, arch-conservative comments to me about what it contained.

I locked it, but wow, what a way to ruin my enjoyment of writing anonymously.

jiji said...

how did you deal with this sitch btw? i'm going through a similar ordeal. people are the worst. but your blog and book deal are the best! go pink india ink!

Freelance Pallbearer said...

Wait, this is why I quit facebook, and myspace, and threw my phone into a well. Are you telling me that blogger is out to get me as well.

Well, shit.